The Lifelong Struggle...

I think that all women, in one way or another, are battling weight issues. Some want to gain, some want to lose, but for me, it's been a lifelong struggle to maintain. As far back as 8th grade, I remember being on a diet. I was never super fat, but I was definitely overweight and chunky. I came to United States in '97 at the age of 13, and being exposed to twinkies, snickers, chips and fatty foods didn't help. I've never seen so much food in my entire life; I lived in a refugee camp before I moved to the States.That is where my love affair and nightmare began with food.

Some Thanksgiving Day Thoughts...

 First, let's all welcome my newphew Liam into this world! Today, I got a chance to see him for the first time and he immediately stole my heart. I love him so much!

Holidays always bring out the best in people. We try to reflect on the good times that we've had throughout the year and thank the God Almighty for all the blessings. This year has definitely been an exciting yet scary year for me, but I thank God for all the blessings that have come my way. From leaving my comfort zone of Detroit, packing my things and moving to Miami... to packing my things again and relocating to New York (where I hope to stay put for a very long time). It's very hard being away from your family and friends that you've known for years and stepping into the unknown... but sometimes you have to take a leap of faith and just pray that He is watching over you and leading you in the right direction.

Lately, I've been reflecting on the past few years of my life in hopes of finding the answers to the questions "How have I contributed to the world and how can I achieve the ultimate happiness?"...

I have no idea... But I hope to find out. I've been doing radio since I was 18 years old. That's all I knew how to do and that all I wanted to do. But when you no longer have the same passion that you once had, you start questioning yourself and praying that you find the answer. But I am thankful for the journey thus far.

I also can't wait to be a mom. I can't help it. I see my sister and her husband, happily married, with a new son and... even though I'm beyond excited for them... I can't help but wonder when and if I will ever have the same thing. For now, I'm thankful for Liam because I will be the best Auntie any kid could ever want!

I say all this to say that I am thankful... for the good, the bad, and the greatest. Everything in life is a lesson and an adventure.

I am thankful for the people that God has placed in my life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime... you've all contributed somehow to this puzzle that is Me.

I do wish that all of you have an amazing Thanksgiving and the Holiday season. Spend it with people that are good for your soul. xoxoxo

Sunni

Just when I had high hopes... He's too clingy already!

The best way to get on my “do not respond to his bbm/text/calls” list, is to pay me too much attention. I know right, what??? Yes, it’s true. Please give me some space and don’t smother me. 

 It was a beautiful Saturday afternoon in New York City. After spending the morning getting a manicure, spending my hard earned money on a pair of extremely uncomfortable (but so worth it) shoes … I decided to agree to a late lunch with “Mr. Officer”. He seemed like a nice guy, down to Earth, great job in law enforcement… basically, he was good on paper. We decided to meet up at a great sushi spot on the Upper East Side, which to me meant that I had to look my absolute best. This is as nice as I’m going to be in this article…. 

I’ll overlook the fact that he showed up 45 minutes later than we had scheduled our lunch. I’ll overlook the fact that he showed up looking like the 34^th miner that has been just rescued out of the Chilean mine. I’ll over look the fact that he wouldn’t stop talking about how much he doesn’t like clingy girls (hence, he’s blowing up my phone as I’m typing this right now). After everything, I still agreed to meet up with him this week and attend a comedy show. At least I did until today.

After informing him that I have an extremely busy week and will let him know when I will be available to attend this comedy show, he’s managed to somehow text me, bbm me, and call me several times (all Sunday and Monday) asking the same questions… What are you doing? How are you doing? How was traffic this morning? So when do you think you’ll be free? Don’t you write an article about me (HA TOO LATE) Etc… C’mon son! I’m busy!!! It’s such a turnoff! 

I’m not a very confrontational person so instead of telling you, I will just ignore you. Yes, you will be confused and wonder what happened, but you deserve the silent treatment. I honestly had high hopes for him. I rated the date a 6, but was still willing to give him another shot. As of now, that probably won’t happen! No woman wants to see a grown man acting so desperate, and I think it goes both ways. Once you show someone that you’re head over heels for them, you lose the power and the other person has control. The fact that he is already so overbeating and he doesn’t know much about me, tells me more about him as a person. Could you image how clingy and attached he would get over time if we were in a relationship? 

Everyone loves to feel wanted and special, but when does it become too much? … or am I just use to the jerks that don't call enough... *sigh*

Sunni

On this weekend eve...

As another weekend creeps up, so much to do, so little time. I promised myself that I would schedule myself on three dates per week. I am determined to get use to "dating". With work, attending events and parties (this is MUST in our business), I squeeze sleep in somewhere, so that leaves little time for anything else. But I'm focused. Met a few nice people on my social experiment (match.com) but after hearing a horror story today from a make-up artist who had the worst date ever with a man she met online, I'm thinking twice about this experiment. But the men that I've met thus far seem very normal. I don't see anything wrong with meeting up for a drink and a quick conversation. I can always make an excuse and dip out through the back door if necessary and he's a complete douchebag. On the way to the Concrete Loop 5th Anniversary party and a couple of other events. Will keep yall posted. Muah!

Loving This New ME That I'm Becoming...

Last night, I attended the GQ November Issue Release Party at Trump Soho celebrating Swizz Beatz cover feature. The atmosphere was incredible. Room was full of young professionals and industry folks; men in bowties (with the exception of a few fitted caps, but eh it’s NY), women in very fashionable yet sexy dresses and bold red lips… far from the shiny bedazzled two-way stretch hoochie dresses of South Beach. The event started at 8 and it was over by 11pm. I love that! People here have REAL jobs and have to wake up early (my alarm is set for 5:15am daily wakeup call). As Swizz Beatz and Alicia Keys made their way through the room, they seemed calm and very familiar with the small intimate crowd. There were no star-struck folks, no crowding and no groupie behavior. It’s New York, people are use to this. DJ Cassidy was spinning and the music was Ah-mazing! Even Mr. & Mrs. Keys got down on the dance floor.  It wasn’t about who you’re with, how many bottles you’re buying or what kind of car you’re driving…. It was just simply “nice”. Effortless! Everyone was having a great time!

Recently my friend Jason tweeted this to me “Welcome to New York, Ma!!! It's not "what you drive"... It's "who you are". Fakers have no material to hide behind”…

So true…

I guess it’s all a part of me growing up as a person; I am starting to appreciate the small intimate gatherings of good people and great music, mixed with a little bit of business. Even the men I date (more on that this week), there are no flashy cars, no flashy chains, no gimmicks. New York will expose the real! You get a chance to see the person for who they really are aside from the material things. Five years ago, I probably would not have been able to see as clearly as I do now, I did not have the appreciation for the things that really matter in life, my views were all f*cked up.

I say all this to say… New York is really making me a better person. I feel that I don’t have to try to be someone that I’m not, fit into the mold of someone’s ideal woman; I’m just ME!  For the first time, I am really seeing men for who they are on the inside, their views on love and life, their family values and morals. At the end of the day, all material things can be taken away and the only thing that is left is your soul. Let’s hope that it’s a beautiful one.

I will lie about how we met

One thing that I have noticed while searching profiles on match.com (I promise I'm only giving this service 1 month) is that in everyone's profile it reads "I will lie about how we met". But my thought is why? Social media is the new way of networking, meeting new people and socializing in general. What would we do if we didn't have twitter and FB? What if you do meet someone you really like on Facebook or Twitter, meet up for drinks and 6 months later are engaged? Would that be too embarrassing to admit? I think not. I would gladly tell people that I met my man online. Hell! We do everything else online. Pay bills, apply for jobs, bank, etc... I think that the days of "only creepy men who can't get dates in real life are online" are over! Ladies, online dating is the new way to browse through hundreds of potentials, quickly eliminating the too short, too skinny, too goofy, and get to the real deal. I look at it as a Man Catalog and I'm a proud shopper.

I never thought this would happen...

I signed up for match.com! LOL

I always said that it was the last resort but I figured why not? It's the perfect time to meet as many different people as possible. I signed up twenty minutes ago and already received three emails and 5 winks (#dies). LOL! The things that I love about this idea that it's going to give me a chance to meet men outside of this crazy music industry. Let's see how this goes #fingerscrossed

Welcome to my new blog!

Hey dolls! So two weeks after moving to New York, I decided to start my blog. It’s very personal to me and I really hope that you all truly appreciate it because it is going to document my dating life in the Big Apple. I’ve never really been good at this “dating” thing so I’m giving it a shot in the most fabulous city in the world. I lived in Miami for the past seven months and it was terrible when it came to dating. This blog is not meant to "out" or "expose" anyone that I date, it is here to help me share my story with girls from all across the country, and for us to help each other out. It's about exchanging advice, tips, and stories. So follow me on my journey to finding true love! Muah!