Loving This New ME That I'm Becoming...

Last night, I attended the GQ November Issue Release Party at Trump Soho celebrating Swizz Beatz cover feature. The atmosphere was incredible. Room was full of young professionals and industry folks; men in bowties (with the exception of a few fitted caps, but eh it’s NY), women in very fashionable yet sexy dresses and bold red lips… far from the shiny bedazzled two-way stretch hoochie dresses of South Beach. The event started at 8 and it was over by 11pm. I love that! People here have REAL jobs and have to wake up early (my alarm is set for 5:15am daily wakeup call). As Swizz Beatz and Alicia Keys made their way through the room, they seemed calm and very familiar with the small intimate crowd. There were no star-struck folks, no crowding and no groupie behavior. It’s New York, people are use to this. DJ Cassidy was spinning and the music was Ah-mazing! Even Mr. & Mrs. Keys got down on the dance floor.  It wasn’t about who you’re with, how many bottles you’re buying or what kind of car you’re driving…. It was just simply “nice”. Effortless! Everyone was having a great time!

Recently my friend Jason tweeted this to me “Welcome to New York, Ma!!! It's not "what you drive"... It's "who you are". Fakers have no material to hide behind”…

So true…

I guess it’s all a part of me growing up as a person; I am starting to appreciate the small intimate gatherings of good people and great music, mixed with a little bit of business. Even the men I date (more on that this week), there are no flashy cars, no flashy chains, no gimmicks. New York will expose the real! You get a chance to see the person for who they really are aside from the material things. Five years ago, I probably would not have been able to see as clearly as I do now, I did not have the appreciation for the things that really matter in life, my views were all f*cked up.

I say all this to say… New York is really making me a better person. I feel that I don’t have to try to be someone that I’m not, fit into the mold of someone’s ideal woman; I’m just ME!  For the first time, I am really seeing men for who they are on the inside, their views on love and life, their family values and morals. At the end of the day, all material things can be taken away and the only thing that is left is your soul. Let’s hope that it’s a beautiful one.